I WAS a happy Adoptive parent of 4, East Indian daughter age 22, two African-American 18 year olds (non-related, and a Korean 15 year old. All had special needs. We taught Adoption Classes, and I did the Newsletter for a local agency, Board of Directors for NAFA (Adoptive support group). I became a member of an agency with social worker who did our studies. Two of our teen agers made false allegations of abuse (I wanted to live with a friend, the other was mad about no cell phone) DHS stepped in and didn't even talk to our other kids! Our non-complaining kid was forced into foster care. Jameela at 22 was too old. Our lawyers said, forget fighting, you can't win, you'll just loose your shirt, house, etc. We never dreamed something like this could happen to us! NOT in America?! Our lawyers said "welcome to Nazi Germany" Ben got to come home, although he'd not made any accuzations, and it was clear he'd never been abused and said so...."he was at risk" so spent two years away, until he turned 18. Now, he's a senior, and we can't go to PTA or his Track meets or football games because his 15 year old brother, who claimed abuse after we adopted him with only one arm from Korea, fitted him with a prosthetic, and spent every waking moment buying archery sets,t-ball outfits, anything so he'd succeed with Shriner's help. And I pay $1,500 a month to keep him in foster care and the state put a court order in place so even though I beg to visit or write the children I've loved for 16 years, the daughter I nursed through 4 years of crack addiction, I am barred from any contact.

By the way Kayla went from a 3 pt to missing 72 days and flunked out her senior years in high school. They gave her the college money we took years putting aside for her college, and she spent $3,000 in 2 months on dope trying to forget she lied. She wrote me a letter, which she told them about, and they punished her for. Cody's (15) is on his 7th placement has improved his grades because of increased disipline, but he hates it (It's his 7th placement) and ran away march 23, and hasn't been seen since.

I took four kids out of the foster care system, and they pushed two back in...both are now on meth...great job Oregon

Of the $1,500 a month per child, their foster parents see less than $400

Mary,

I don't know if you posted this here by mistake or if you're simply responding to several blogs to get the word out about your circumstances, but I'm sorry for all the pain you've experienced.