LDS Adoption Blog

03/17/07

Cheaper by the dozen? LDS family size, part 7

Posted by : Tana W. in LDS Adoption Blog at 12:32 am , 381 words, 177 views  
Categories: LARGE FAMILIES, Being Conspicuous


The world tells us that having a large family isn’t possible to do successfully. Something’s gotta give. Somebody’s gotta come out holding the short end of the stick. There simply isn’t enough time or enough money to raise a large family and do it well, right? Interestingly, or maybe logically - coming at this from the angle I am - a 1998 Ohio State University study yielded results that scientifically counter society’s view that LDS large families suffer due to lack of resources. And I say “LDS large families” specifically because this was true only for LDS families:

“…Mormon children didn’t display the significant declines in educational performance that other children showed as family size increased. And one reason may be that resources parents devoted to children did not decline as significantly among Mormons as they did among the rest of the population.”

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(The entire article is worth a read and should reassure large LDS families.)

In closing, enjoy these thoughts from President Kimball, which I include not as a condemnation of smaller families, but as encouragement to those who have large families or hope to have one. We don’t often get praise from the world, so it’s nice to get some from a prophet! :)

Have large families regardless of social norms. In America and elsewhere in the world, the family limitation program is gaining much strength. Latter-day Saints do not believe in this. We believe in following the admonition of the Lord in having large families and rearing them righteously. We hope that our Latter-day Saints will not trade children for accommodation and luxury.
When you go to the temple for sealing, you will note that the Lord continues to command his people to live this commandment. It is not easy. It is much easier to limit the family to one or two, but great blessings come to those who struggle through the years with the small children. When they have reared them righteously, they will have crowns throughout eternity. The time will come when those men and women who have neglected their duties because they wanted luxuries will be very jealous of the joys and happiness of those who sacrificed in the early years of marriage. Certainly we do not just wish

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Comment from: Mongoose [Member] Email
I think that might have a lot to do with the fact that LDS have large families by choice whereas in a lot of other situations, the family is large because the parents are irresponsible with birth control. Studies show that family size is inversely proportional to intelligence - i.e. dumb people have more kids. It sounds terribly not PC but I'm sure we all know families where the mother just doesn't seem capable of using birth control properly. When intelligent people with values and plans and systems have many kids, it's a totally different scenario.
PermalinkPermalink 03/18/07 @ 15:20
Comment from: Robin D [Member] Email
Tana,
I always love your blog although I have never left a message until now. Yesterday (Sunday), as we pulled into our driveway coming home from church, our 8 kids were piling out of our 15 passenger van and the Elders Quoromn President stopped his car and rolled down the window. Keep in mind my husband is his 1st counselor. His wife yelled out "Do we need to turn you in?" and he said "Your family is good birth control for us." I was so stunned that I just smiled and went in the house and said to my husband, "did they really just say that.... and in front of my children?" We are even new to this ward and the only family with more than 6 kids and with children of color.
You wouldn't expect this kind of thinking from members of the church but I think society's views are creeping in ever so slightly.
Its so nice to have support from my friends on the web! Love you guys! Its sad to see us large families are becoming fewer and farther between. It certainly is a great and wonderful blessing and I love it!
Robin
PermalinkPermalink 03/19/07 @ 14:36
Comment from: Tana W. [Member] Email · http://lds.adoptionblogs.com
Wow, that's pretty offensive. I've had extended family make similar comments about us being good birth control, and it really irks me.

Just last night, in the wee hours, my husband and I were talking about how many people practically offer their condolences to us. It's not like we had these kids by "accident" - obviously with adoption, you have do take some pretty significant steps to initiate things. Do people think that we're miserable? Don't they realize we wouldn't keep doing it if we didn't like it or find it rewarding in SOME way? I just don't get it...
PermalinkPermalink 03/19/07 @ 17:11
Comment from: gloria [Member] Email
Wow -- I feel for robin, as I felt that was a very insensitive comment......bottom line : how many children a couple decide to have is really no one's business..... some folks just have a awful way of keeping their opinions to themselves! :)

Blessings!
gloria
mom to 10
PermalinkPermalink 03/19/07 @ 22:34
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